Spring Cleaning with Febreze


How I spring clean with Febreze | The Champagne Supernova

Things
I like to put off more than cleaning:

1.       Literally everything on this planet.

When my girls were little, I hired a mother’s helper to help me get stuff done around the house. You can read the post here. Now that they’re older and we are more interested in saving money, we’ve scaled back on the Mother’s Helper and the cleaning is now left to me.

My
strategy: one big clean every quarter, followed by smaller follow-up cleans
each week.

What does this mean?

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    I am not a Pinterest Mom


    I am not a Pinterest mom | The Champagne Supernova

    Last week, I was at the courthouse when opposing counsel told me his wife was busy hauling their eight year-old daughter, who is a couple years older than my daughters, to after school activities.

    Let me see if I remember this correctly. His daughter partook in ten activities. You didn’t read it wrong. Ten.

    Chess, soccer, French lessons, dance, competitive gymnastics, swim, violin, Girl Scouts, mini yoga, and sewing. My colleague said his daughter didn’t get home until after 9 p.m. each night and that she still had to do her homework and shower before bed.

    Hearing this child’s schedule was exhausting.

    Then it started creeping in: MOM GUILT.

    As background, I have a personal policy in my home that each of my kids is allowed two extracurricular activities at a given time. Two activities gives my kids freedom to decide what to do without them burning out. It also allows me to maintain sanity, as I work part time as a lawyer and have a crazy schedule. I know my personal limits, and any more activities will trigger irritation that results in impatience, yelling, and nothing good.

    Notwithstanding this personal rule of two activities, I began comparing myself to my colleague’s wife and felt like a crappy mother. I questioned whether my two-activity policy was selfish. I asked myself whether I was depriving my kids of amazing opportunities because I didn’t want to chauffeur them anymore than I already did.

    “What if the girls have more talent than Frederic Chopin and I’ll never know about it because they don’t take piano lessons? Should I go online and order a Baby Grand?”

    I stressed about it for a couple days.

    Then I had the epiphany.

    I have to do what is best for me and my family and own it.

    I can lie to myself all day and pretend to be the type of mom that I want to be instead of the mom I actually am. You know what would happen? It would never fly.

    Here’s the reality.

    I’m not a Pinterest mom. I love OTHER Pinterest moms, but party planning is not my gift. I’m content with throwing a party at a park with a pizza, bounce house, and decorations that don’t match. I just want my kids to have fun.

    I’m not a PTA mom. I love OTHER PTA moms, but committee stuff is not my gift. Yes, I can do it and get it done, but it’s not my calling. I love attending events and don’t have to be on the planning committee. I’d rather let other moms have the proverbial floor. I’m content being an Indian and not the Chief.

    I’m not a Sally Homemaker mom. I love OTHER Sally Homemaker moms, but keeping house is not my gift. I marvel over the way some moms make cleaning, homemaking, and raising children look effortless. I aspire to be that way and ask them for advice, but that’s just not how God wired me.

    I’m not the patient Math Tutor mom. I love OTHER Math Tutor moms, but if I want my kids to love me, I have to let someone else help them with their homework. Otherwise, it ends with tears, frustration, and eye rolls. Because fractions and long division.

    I am not the mom who is going to put her kids in ten activities. I love and respect those moms. I’m not shaming them. Some kids enjoy being super active. Some kids need to burn off energy. Some moms like driving their kids everywhere and don’t mind getting home late.

    But those are not my kids and that is not me. I’m not going to let Mom Guilt blind me to what my kids and I really need, which is time to rest before bedtime.

    Just because being a Pinterest mom, PTA mom, Sally Homemaker mom, Math Tutor mom, or Activity mom aren’t my gifts doesn’t mean I don’t have them. There are plenty of other things to bring to the table and I’ll own what I know I am: a chauffeur, therapist, cook, knock-knock joke teller, laundry lady, hairdresser, stylist, snack-maker, sideline-cheerer, bedtime storyteller, board game-player, movie watcher, and teacher.

    I’m okay with all those things. I don’t need to be a Pinterest mom. I just care about doing my best.

    Cheers.

      We are Each Other’s Keepers


      A couple months ago, I deposed a plaintiff who had a traumatic brain injury from a catastrophic car accident. If the case wasn’t ongoing, I’d share the property damage photographs, but this man is lucky to be alive.

      This man is highly educated and worked as an architect at a large, worldwide firm. He claims his cognitive dysfunction has left him unable to hold down gainful employment.

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        Combat the Flu with Indian River Select


        I had a near-death experience last year when I got the flu. It caught up with me at the worst possible time and place: on a girls’ trip with friends in New Orleans. Instead of enjoying everything the Big Easy had to offer like jambalaya, crawfish, and beignets, I was holed up in my hotel room feeling miserable. The pounding from the fever happening in my head felt like the thumping of a Second Line Parade. I returned to Tampa, missed several days from work, and lost ten pounds because I couldn’t keep food down. Luckily, I managed to not infect my children and husband, who were quarantined. (And let’s be honest, there is no sickness worse than a “man cold.”)

        Photograph of me (far right) and friends in New Orleans before the flu kicked in.

        This year, I’m doing everything possible to prevent me and my family from having another horrific run-on with the flu. 

        Where are we starting? With Indian River Select’s juice.

        As background, I’ve been a long-time purchaser of this juice. Born and raised in Florida, I’ve been drinking juice my entire life and know that not all orange juices are created equally. Some are too sweet- packed with preservatives, artificial flavors, and added sugars. Indian River Select’s juices taste different because they taste BETTER and FRESHER. After just one sip, you can tell they are different from the rest. After all, their juices contain ONE ingredient: orange or grapefruit.

        I have always been an advocate of supporting small, local businesses. Indian River Select is a company I can totally get behind, as it is one of the few premium juice companies that is 100% Floridian. This means EVERYTHING is done locally in Florida: from the growing to the picking to the packaging.  

        Now, back to the flu. An 8-ounce glass of Indian River Select’s orange juice is an excellent source of Vitamin C, potassium, folate, and thiamin- all nutrients that may help support, boost, and maintain a healthy immune system. 

        Other ways to combat the flu include moseying to the nearest pharmacy for a flu shot, staying hydrated, washing your hands properly, and supporting your immune system.

        Finding Indian River Select juices is easy. They’re available at many accessible and national retail chains like Walmart, Winn-Dixie, Target, Publix, Whole Foods, and The Fresh Market.

        Visit Indian River Select online to learn more – you can also download a discount coupon here.

        Cheers to steering clear of the flu this flu season.

        This post is sponsored by Indian River Select. All opinions are my own.

          Party Prep for the Super Bowl with Febreze


          Prepare for your parties with Febreze | The Champagne Supernova
          Add Febreze AIR to your Super Bowl party list.

          Super bowl parties are the best. That’s why 45 million Americans annually host a party on the day of the big game.

          The sporting event. The rivalries. Simply having a reason to get together with friends on a Sunday night.

          However, nobody said being a host is easy, and planning a Super Bowl party isn’t nearly as fun as the party itself. From making a grocery list, sending out invitations, and making sure there’s enough prime seating in front of the big screen, a host’s job is never done.

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            Dear Kids: You Are Worth It


            Photo credit: Synthia Therese Photography 

            Dear Kids,

            You are worth it.

            You are worth the sleepless nights.

            You are worth the sacrifices to my career. 

            You were worth it when most of my hair fell out after you were born. I’m sure you’ll still be worth it when my hair falls out when you’re a teenager.

            You are worth my snail-paced metabolism.

            You are worth me not being able to fit into my skinny jeans. 

            You are worth substituting The Real Housewives for Peppa Pig.

            You are worth switching old school rap for KidzBop.

            When I fantasize how rich I’d be if I didn’t have kids, I still think you’re worth it.

            Photo Credit: Synthia Therese Photography 

            You are worth the deflated boobs.

            You are worth the diminished thigh gap.

            You are worth all the time I no longer have to myself. The chipped nail polish. The old clothes. All the books sitting on my nightstand waiting to be read.

            When I think all the friends I don’t get to see as often as I’d like, I remember it’s because you are my priority and that’s worth it.

            You are worth me having to re-learn math so I can help you with your homework. 

            You are worth it when I wake up in the middle of the night to wash your sheets when you are potty training. 

            You are worth me never having privacy in the bathroom. 

            You are worth it when I go broke buying your school pictures because all of them are too cute to pass up. 

            You are worth it when I have to make heartbreaking choices that I know will be better for you in the long run. 

            Photo Credit: Synthia Therese Photography 

            You are worth it.

            Love, Mom.

              Finding a Nanny, or “Internet Dating for Parents and Caregivers” Part 1 of 4: Writing Your Personal Ads


              How to find a nanny | The Champagne Supernova

              My kids have been in daycare since they were a couple months old. I never had the luxury of having a nanny for them, so I jumped at the opportunity for a guest post from my friend, Shylie Bannon, when she offered to write one.

              This is the first installment in a four part series about finding a nanny. I’m so grateful for Shylie and her insight, as well as her friendship.

              Here goes:

              When I grew up, both of my parents worked outside of the home. My mother had her own OB/GYN practice which often required her to keep “odd” hours (babies love to be born on the weekends and in the middle of the night), and so I grew up raised by my parents, with the help of some very loving, reliable caregivers. We developed close relationships with these caregivers, and to this day, we exchange holiday cards, birthday cards, and even invited them to our wedding. When I became pregnant, it seemed like a no-brainer to me that I would choose the same kind of arrangement for my son.

              I thought to myself, “This will be easy! How hard can it be to find the right, qualified caregiver for my three-month-old?”

              Famous. Last. Words.

              Finding a nanny is a very weird combination of interviewing prospective employees and going on blind internet dates.

              You have to come across as appealing to the prospective nannies, but you also have to ensure that the prospective nannies understand your “non-negotiables.” You have to figure out if you and your candidate have the right “chemistry.” You are interviewing someone who is going to spend more time in your home during waking hours than you do. Unlike internet dating, the consequences of a bad nanny matchup are more than just a potential “ghosting” and funny story to later relate at cocktail parties. You may end up in the lurch without childcare at a moment’s notice.

              When you decide you are going to search for a nanny for your kid(s), the very first step you should take is to sit down with your partner and make a list of job duties, requirements, and character traits you are looking for in a nanny. You should consider:

              How much can you afford to spend on care? Apart from paying a nanny her wages, being an employer comes with so many hidden costs. Nannies are considered “household employees” and should be paid as W-2 employees. Employers are responsible for paying employer contributions to social security taxes, Medicare taxes, and both Federal and State unemployment taxes. Are you willing to offer paid vacation? If your nanny is transporting your child, are you going to compensate her for gas/wear and tear on her vehicle?

              Hours you need care: Be realistic about this and if you are using your nanny to care for your child while you are at work, build in a bit of a cushion for unanticipated last minute tasks, late-running meetings, or bad traffic. Likewise, don’t expect your nanny to show up and you to run out the door in the morning. You should expect to have an overlap of approximately 10-15 minutes each morning and evening with your caregiver to “debrief” and exchange important information. Your caregiver must be available for these talks, and it’s best for neither party to feel harried or rushed. Keep in mind that nannies are entitled to overtime pay for all hours worked over 40. Those extra hours can add up quickly.

              Location: Is it non-negotiable for you to have the nanny provide care in your home, or are you willing to drop your child off at the nanny’s home? If you are comfortable having your child watched in another location, make sure you consider what materials/equipment you will be expected to supply, and the condition of the equipment the nanny has in her home. You should also consider safety hazards and who else might be in the home while your child is being watched. Is the nanny willing to let you do a complete walkthrough of her home with little to no advanced notice?

              Household tasks you want your caregiver to complete: Some families expect caregivers to perform household chores for the entire family, others expect their caregivers to perform tasks related only to the child in their charge. Considering what role you expect your caregiver to take will affect the type of candidate you are looking for, as well as how much you may have to pay.

              Tasks associated with caregiving: For an infant or toddler, your caregiver must be comfortable handling all tasks for a completely dependent little person. If you are looking for a nanny for an elementary or middle school aged child, will you expect the caregiver to provide homework assistance? Supervise other children during play dates? Transport to after-school lessons?

              -Other specifics you should contemplate:

              Are you comfortable with a smoker or someone who lives with a smoker?

              Are you comfortable letting the caregiver bring their own child with them to work? For that matter, are you open to a caregiver who has children of her own, and if so, do you have preferences regarding the age of the caregiver’s children?

              How much experience do you expect your caregiver to have, and are you looking for a specific type of prior experience? Daycare, teacher, in-home provider?

              Is the caregiver fluent in a language in which you are fluent? Is the caregiver comfortable communicating with others in English?

              Does the caregiver’s age matter to you? Some people prefer a mature, grandmotherly type, and others are looking for a younger, more contemporary caregiver. The physical tasks associated with your job may play a role in determining whether you have an age preference. Keep in mind that with infants and young children, caregivers will be sitting and/or laying on the floor with your child and carrying them often.

              Do you require a caregiver to have her own transportation? (Even if you do not expect the caregiver to transport your child, this may be important to ensure reliability.)

              If you have pets, ensure potential applicants are aware of what type of pet you have so if they are afraid of animals or allergic to animals, you don’t waste anyone’s time.

              After making this list, you should categorize these preferences as “Non-Negotiables,” “Preferred,” and “Desired/Fantasy” items. As we interviewed candidates, we quickly found that a number of our preferences shifted amongst these categories. We knew how much money we could afford to pay, and that was a non-negotiable for us. In order to get a qualified candidate with whom we felt comfortable, we ended up having to reduce the number of hours of care. Fortunately, our employers were willing to work with us on alternative office schedules—for example, my husband is in his office at 7 AM so he can leave earlier in the day, and I go to work a little later than I previously did, but stay later. We initially were flexible about hiring a caregiver who had her own young child (whom she did not bring to work), but after a bad experience, decided that it was “non-negotiable” that our nanny have no children younger than school-age children so that there would be no concerns she would be exclusively focused on our son when she was on the job.

              When creating your job posting, make sure you include some information about yourself and your family. After all, you have to make sure that your family is a good fit for your nanny as well. I tried to convey a sense of who we were and what was important to us as a family in our ad (our love for the Florida Gators featured front and center). Make sure you put all of your non-negotiables in the job listing, other than your rate of pay. This will save you a lot of time and energy making your way through an interview with someone who seems like the perfect candidate until you find out that she is, in fact, incredibly allergic to cats when you have two fluffy feline members of the household (this actually happened to me). I recommend putting a few of your “preferred” traits in the posting as well, but ultimately, I found that a number of applicants would just parrot my listing back to me when describing themselves because they knew that was what I wanted to hear.

              Once you’ve figured out what you’re looking for, and how to advertise it, you next have to navigate the interview process—aka, the Courtship. Will you swipe left or right?

              Shylie Bannon is a graduate of the University of Florida and lives her son and husband in Jacksonville, where she is employed as an attorney. 

                Tropical Smoothie Cafe: Your Holiday Beverage Destination


                Holiday Smoothies from Tropical Smoothie | The Champagne Supernova

                This blog post is sponsored. All opinions are my own. 

                Does anyone else feel like the holidays just snuck up on them this year?

                I feel like we were just soaking up the sun at the beach and- bam!- we are now breaking out Elf on the Shelf and writing wish lists for Santa.

                I have to affirmatively do certain things to get myself mentally prepared for the hustle and bustle of the holidays.

                Things that put me in the mood for the holidays:

                • Listening to Mariah Carey’s “Merry Christmas” album;
                • Forcing my family to watch back-to-back episodes of Home Alone and The Christmas Story;
                • Burning cinnamon-flavored candles in the house;
                • Baking gingerbread cookies; and
                • Taking walks around the neighborhood to look at the lights.

                I’ve recently added another thing to the list:

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                  I Asked God


                  I asked God at Mt. Vernon | The Champagne Supernova

                  I asked God if He would love me if I was skinny, fat, or had a thigh gap.

                  He said yes.

                  I asked God if He would love me if I spoke perfectly or a cuss word occasionally snuck out.

                  He said yes.

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