Cheers to the “Easy Friends”


Cheers to the friendships that come easy | The Champagne Supernova

I recently went for a walk with a girlfriend who has a son in Kindergarten.

Despite the young age, there was already “drama” in the Kindergarten class among the boys.

This was typical six year-old drama: excluding someone on the playground, not sharing snacks at lunch, and threatening to disinvite a classmate to a birthday party.

Sigh.

My friend’s son is laid back and easily makes friends. However, because the ongoing drama involved his small circle of buddies in his class, it was hard for him to get away from it.

One of the little boys constantly stirred up drama. His name was Mark. Mark was moody and my friend’s son was always worried Mark would get mad at him about something dumb. The other boys walked on eggshells around Mark.

Also involved in this circle of friends was a kid named Owen. Owen was easygoing and fun. Owen and my friend’s son had a lot in common. Owen wasn’t dramatic.

One day, my friend asked her son what the deal was with Mark and why there was so much drama.

Mom, he said, being friends with Owen is… easy. It’s so easy. Being friends with Mark is really hard. 

This simple comment was profound.

We can all relate.

As adults, some of our friendships are easy and some are really hard.

Some friendships are drains and others are sponges.

If we keep the hard friendships going, we can spend more time than we need to focusing on them to the detriment of our “easy” friends, who don’t seem to care or notice anyway, because that’s just in their nature of being easy.

So…

Let’s give credit where credit is due.

Cheers to the “easy friends.”

The friends you can call after several months of not talking (because life gets in the way) and you chat and chat and chat and the next thing you know, three hours have passed and you have to pick up your kids from school, but you feel like you have so much more to talk about.

The friends who are genuinely happy about your successes and mourn with you over your failures.

The friends who can’t stand the same people as you because you mutually see through the phoniness.

The friends who you can do absolutely nothing with but it still manages to be a good time because you don’t have to entertain them.

The friends who aren’t prima donnas who expect you to make them a constant priority.

The friends who are real and would like you whether you wore Tom Ford or something from the Target discount rack. They don’t care how much money your parents have, whether you have a trust fund or food stamps, or what’s in your bank account. You never have to wonder whether they like you for the wrong reasons. They would be friends with you either way.

The friends who put you in your place when they need to, but won’t talk about you behind your back. These are the friends who love you enough to tell it like it is.

The friends who don’t cancel plans with you when something better comes along.

The friends who have helped you move. Because moving is one of the worst things you’ll ever have to do.

The friends who don’t keep score of things they’ve done for you in the past.

The friends who don’t take it personally when you decline an invitation.

The friends who you can cry to or tell your darkest thoughts without fear of judgment.

Thank you to the “easy” friends.

Cheers!

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    10 Comments on Cheers to the “Easy Friends”

    1. S K
      April 5, 2018 at 8:35 pm (5 months ago)

      I randomly came across this and this happened to me today ! My good friend and I haven’t seen each other for a while (babies… work …etc) and we finally set up a lunch date today and while on the phone we couldn’t stop joking and talking !

      Loved it ! Cheers to them !!

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      • jenniferdaku
        April 10, 2018 at 8:24 pm (4 months ago)

        Thanks so much SK- keep the lunch dates with the easy friends coming!

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    2. Sarah Walsh
      April 4, 2018 at 10:00 am (5 months ago)

      Love this! Easy friends are the best. Can always pick up where you left off 🥂

      Reply
    3. Adrian | AdriansCrazyLife
      March 26, 2018 at 10:10 am (5 months ago)

      Reminds me of one of my friends. I ran into her at the gym after I hadn’t seen her for a while. We stood there talking for three hours! Well, we stood for the first hour, sat for the second hour and had breakfast for the third hour. After a while my husband called, very confused. I thought you were just going to the gym he asked. I ran into Anne I answered. Oh Ok. That was all the answer he needed. That’s my idea of a wonderful friend!

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    4. pinky
      March 21, 2018 at 1:33 pm (5 months ago)

      Love this! <3

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    5. Andrea Bates
      March 12, 2018 at 11:38 am (5 months ago)

      I absolutely LOVE this. So so much. Thank you for this. May your days always be filled w. easy friends.

      Reply
    6. Emily
      March 6, 2018 at 9:17 am (6 months ago)

      You are definitely an easy friend. Love you!

      Reply
    7. bryanna skye
      March 6, 2018 at 6:42 am (6 months ago)

      I love ‘easy’ friends — they are such a positive force in life. But ‘hard’ friends can also be important as long as they are not impacting negatively, and they can be a huge support during harder times

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    8. Jenny
      March 6, 2018 at 6:09 am (6 months ago)

      I like easy friends but sometimes find the harder ones are just as fun, often they just need more understanding or time.

      Reply

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