Life: The 8 Types of Friends You Need


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I went to the bachelorette party of one of my college-turned-adulthood-friends, Stephanie, in New Orleans this past weekend. I was reunited with old friends and made new friends. We ate too much jambalaya, listened to a lot of jazz, and drank one too many Hurricanes.

The second night of the party was a “Golden Girls” theme, appropriately based on Stephanie’s weekend mantra of “Thank you for being a friend,” and there were a whole lotta laughs to go along with the wigs and grandma outfits.

It was a blast and we were a spectacle.

Stephanie and I met our freshman year of college at the University of Florida. She lived directly across the hall from me in the dorms (Trusler Hall, for all you Gators) and we became insta-friends during sorority rush, as we were placed in the same recruitment group, which was assigned alphabetically.

On the first day of recruitment, I knocked on Stephanie’s door, introduced myself, and asked her to iron my hair.

This wasn’t Helen of Troy or the Chi.

C’mon. It was 2000 and those luxuries weren’t available.

Just an old fashioned iron I brought to college from home, which my mom probably purchased at JCPenney in the mid-1990s.

Stephanie agreed, I got down on the ground, and she literally straightened my hair with an iron.

We bonded over the smell of processed chemicals and burned split ends. We made other friends in the rush group, rolled our eyes at the girls who thought they were better than everyone else, and laughed when we were starving and the recruitment counselor offered each of us one measly piece of Starburst to “hold us over” before dinner. This was after she brought over coffee filters to take the shines off our faces. Again, this was before the days of the “fancy” oil absorbing sheets you could purchase at the drug store.

Some of my favorite, most endearing memories from college involved Stephanie. I could write a book and it would embarrass our families and maybe get us disbarred, but they were cherished nonetheless. Over the next sixteen years, we would go our separate ways geographically, but it wouldn’t let us stop from sharing in each others’ victories, crying over our losses, and listening to each other vent our frustrations.

We still talk on the phone almost every day.

Weekends away with longtime friends are typically followed by airport contemplations, on the way home, about the types of company we keep.

Carrie had Miranda, Samantha, and Charlotte. Zack had Slater, Jessie, Kelly, Lisa, and Screech. Rachel had Monica, Joey, Phoebe, Chandler, Joey, and Ross. These characters all knew that sometimes we need more than one friend to fulfill certain roles.

Here are the eight types of friends people need in their lives:

1. The Truth Teller: This is the person who will (lovingly) remind you when it’s time to tweeze  that long, black hair on your chin. The person who will acknowledge when the skirt makes your butt look big or if you did something that was out of line and ya-better-be-careful-or-karma-will-come-to-getcha.

They aren’t sugar-coaters, and sometimes their input is unwelcome and unsolicited, but you need them, Gosh Darnit, to keep yourself in check.

2. The Good-Time-Charlie: This is the person who is always down for a good time. If you want to have a blast on the town or engage in a Sunday-Funday, this person is always available and will always make you return home with awesome memories.

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Stephanie in character as Dorothy Zbornak on stage singing to Whitney Houston. For me posting this on the Internet without her permission, Steph falls into the category of “The Forgiving Friend.”

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“Ohhhh, I wanna dance with somebody…”

3. The Therapist: This is the person who you can tell, without judgment, your deepest secrets or greatest frustrations. They will stop what they are doing, give you their undivided attention, provide honest feedback, and remind you that how you’re feeling is normal and you aren’t as crazy as you feel. They will tell you that they’ve felt that way too, and you instantly feel better.

4. The Work Buddy: This is the person you can vent to when the jerk in the cubicle repeatedly sneezes too loudly or won’t refill the coffee. The person who will check your big project for typos before you proudly present it to the boss. You generally spend more waking hours with this person than you do your own family, and even though you don’t necessarily hang outside of work, they know your idiosyncrasies and appreciate them anyway.

5. The Ole Faithful: This is the person who is always there for you. This is the first person to text you the morning of your birthday and remembers your wedding anniversary even if you’ve forgotten. This person’s memory is like a steel-trap, and they always remember to acknowledge important events. They are the most thoughtful of the thoughtful.

6. The Oracle. This person is a modern Socrates. They offer wisdom when you need it the most and, dangit, are almost always right.

7. The Former Friend. This is the person who used to be a close friend but, for whatever reason, like the Gotye song, is now “somebody that you used to know.” That’s okay. This person is also one of the most important friends because, without even knowing it, they are also teachers. They taught you about yourself, about the person you should be and want to be, and about the type of friend you perhaps never want to be to other people.

There’s no bad blood. You see them out and about, you politely smile at each other, and you’re grateful for how much they taught you about yourself and how far you’ve come.

8. The Comedian. This person is hilarious and always good for a joke, prank, or a laugh. This person can take it as well as they can dish it out, and for that, you’re appreciative because you need them in your life.

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Sometimes you get lucky and have friends who fill more than one, or many, of the categories.

Who are the most important types of friends in your life? Did I leave a type off of this list?

Cheers!

    28 Comments on Life: The 8 Types of Friends You Need

    1. Vegas Bachelorette Parties
      April 19, 2016 at 9:44 pm (2 years ago)

      What about the list of girls you should party with as i feel it would be a little different lol

      Reply
    2. Chris Huston
      April 14, 2016 at 12:58 pm (2 years ago)

      I love this! I definitely need the truth teller and therapist in my life!

      Reply
    3. Alison
      April 14, 2016 at 9:31 am (2 years ago)

      Oh yes I have friends that cover each of these categories and I know I’m that truthteller haha!

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      • jenniferdaku
        April 14, 2016 at 12:06 pm (2 years ago)

        No shame in that game, we need our truth tellers!

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    4. Allison Jones
      April 14, 2016 at 6:54 am (2 years ago)

      You hit the nail right on the head with this. I have one of each of these in my lives and I’m so thankful for all of them. I’m especially thankful for the former friend because I learned SO many lessons from letting go of that friendship!

      LiveLifeWell,
      Allison

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      • jenniferdaku
        April 14, 2016 at 12:07 pm (2 years ago)

        Thanks, Allison. We need our teachers as well as all our other friends. xo

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      • jenniferdaku
        April 14, 2016 at 12:08 pm (2 years ago)

        Thanks, Heather. I was literally thinking about you this morning because I need to order some vitamins and I remember your awesome post. I’ll re-read it and will send you a message if I have any questions. Looing for something good for women’s health and nail/ hair growth.

        Reply
    5. Kristin
      April 13, 2016 at 9:43 pm (2 years ago)

      Am I #3? 🙂

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      • jenniferdaku
        April 14, 2016 at 12:08 pm (2 years ago)

        YES. And occasionally the Oracle.

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    6. Rachel
      April 13, 2016 at 8:25 pm (2 years ago)

      Such a great post! Love this!

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    7. Car
      April 13, 2016 at 6:21 pm (2 years ago)

      Wow this is so true! At some point or the other all of these types of friends are so helpful. Love this!

      Reply
    8. Liv
      April 13, 2016 at 5:12 pm (2 years ago)

      Ha! I have all of those!

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      • jenniferdaku
        April 14, 2016 at 12:10 pm (2 years ago)

        TOTALLY. Most of these people fit more than one category, for sure.

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    9. Chelsea
      April 13, 2016 at 1:35 pm (2 years ago)

      Aw I love this! I am probably the therapist haha

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      • jenniferdaku
        April 14, 2016 at 12:10 pm (2 years ago)

        You should start asking to be paid! xo

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    10. kristen
      April 13, 2016 at 1:30 pm (2 years ago)

      This is such a great post. Slash, that bachelorette party looked so fun! I LOVE the theme! The truthteller is the best – little black hair, oh my gosh, I’m dying.

      Reply
    11. Christina S.
      April 13, 2016 at 1:24 pm (2 years ago)

      I am lucky enough to have a couple of friends who pull double or triple duty – nothing quite like the Truth-Teller-Ole-Faithful-Comedian. lol.

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      • jenniferdaku
        April 14, 2016 at 12:11 pm (2 years ago)

        AGREED. I just don’t want more than one truth-teller in my life. One is enough.

        Reply
    12. candy
      April 13, 2016 at 10:36 am (2 years ago)

      Title caught my eye. Interesting read and hit the mark on several occasions.

      Reply
    13. Simy
      April 13, 2016 at 9:24 am (2 years ago)

      There’s also the friend you may not see or talk to often but when you do, you fall right back into step as if no time has passed. I’ll let you cleverly come up with a title for them 🙂 Great work and it was awesome seeing you!

      Reply
      • Bran
        April 13, 2016 at 3:32 pm (2 years ago)

        Agree with Simy! Great article, as always! I also think I have a similar pic of you and I walking down the French Quarter for your Bach! <3

        Reply
        • jenniferdaku
          April 14, 2016 at 12:09 pm (2 years ago)

          New Orleans should be a mandatory girls’ weekend place, bachelorette party or no bachelorette party. So fun to take a break from the real world.

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      • jenniferdaku
        April 14, 2016 at 12:11 pm (2 years ago)

        Those are the lifetime friends. Another category: one you can stay in the same room with and not feel like you have to entertain. Just being quiet and “getting it” without there being a problem because of the silence.

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    14. Emily
      April 13, 2016 at 7:47 am (2 years ago)

      Nailed it!!

      Reply
    15. Emily
      April 13, 2016 at 4:45 am (2 years ago)

      Love this.

      Reply
    16. Diane
      April 12, 2016 at 10:48 pm (2 years ago)

      Such a great post Jen and so true!!! Miss you!

      Reply

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