9 Ways Blogging Makes me a Better Person


9 Ways Blogging Made me a Better Person | The Champagne Supernova

When I spearheaded my new blogging venture at The Champagne Supernova back in December of 2014, I freaked out every time I clicked the “publish” button.

What will people think?

Should I censor myself out of fear that sharing my truths will cause me to become rejected?

Will people see me as vain and narcissistic, an occasional stereotype of bloggers? 

Why would other people care to read about my mundane life or my personal opinions? 

As a result of freaking out, my first couple posts were pure garbage. I mean, they weren’t terrible, but they also weren’t my authentic voice. They were the watered-down version of someone trying to come across as polished, politically correct, and proper.

Those qualities are fine, but they’re not always me.

It’s been a bit of an evolution, like everything else in life, but here are 9 ways blogging is making me a better person:

Blogging Helps me Prioritize. Like other bloggers, I balance my hobby of writing with a young family, demanding career, and social life. When I started The Champagne Supernova, I had grandiose plans of publishing a blog post twice a week. Then, as I became more realistic and appreciated the amount of work and creativity associated with writing a quality post, those plans were reduced to once a week.

When I first started blogging I found it incredibly hard at first, I just wasn’t too sure what I had to. My friend luckily recommended that I use something like this best wordpress hosting site to make starting a lot easier. I just had a lot of learning to though and I had a lot of expectations when really I shouldn’t have worried so much.

Now, I’m lucky if I can pump out one post every week.

And you know what? That’s okay.

The world won’t stop spinning if I don’t publish a blog post. And for the Type A control freak in me, this is difficult, but I’ve just gotta let it go. 

Blogging has helped me to establish a hierarchy of what must be done, what could be done, and what can wait for later.

And sometimes that’s blogging.

Blogging Keeps me Accountable. If I write on my blog that I’m going to do something, I pretty much have to do it.

This is exactly why I haven’t posted about my goal to completely give up coffee.

I’m just not there yet.

Blogging Helps me Grow Thick Skin. In the fifteen months I’ve been blogging, I’ve been attacked by internet trolls. One publicly called me a bad mother because I let my three-year-old wear pajamas to daycare. One was another blogger who accused me of hijacking a common phrase from one of her old blog posts (that I never read) and then using it myself.

The pre-blogger me would have called my friends crying and would have considered shutting down the blog for good. I would have responded to these people and tried to reason with them.

You’re gonna like me again, Goshdarnit! 

The post-blogger me shakes it off and doesn’t care.

At all.

Blogging has helped me realize that other peoples’ views don’t matter. And there’s definitely a positive correlation between people who are critical (read: haters) and people who don’t have the courage to pursue their own goals. So, generally, I don’t care about other peoples’ opinions unless those people are my immediate family, a handful of close friends, or a person who enables me to pay my mortgage (e.g. The Bossman).

Blogging Taught me it’s Ok to Make Mistakes. After months of empty submissions to the blog for the Today Show parenting team, you can imagine my elation when one of my posts was finally featured and made its way around the internet. Read it here.

There’s a typo in the fifth paragraph. And while it was unlikely anyone else noticed, noticed and agonized about it.

For days.

Then I realized, like most things, life isn’t over because of a simple mistake. In fact, life just got better because I learned from the mistake. I make an effort to closely read all of my posts before they’re published to avoid other typos in the future.

You know what? It’s bound to happen again.

And it’ll be ok.

Blogging Inspires Creativity. One of my work colleagues, whom I deeply respect, once said that every person has an inherent need to be creative. Whether it’s painting, singing, writing, knitting, drawing, whatever, we all need to act upon our creativity, and we become unhappy when we can’t do that.

I can relate.

Creative expression sets my soul on fire. It allows me to be “artistic” in a way that my day job doesn’t.

And I’m so much happier now that I’ve pursued it.

Blogging Enhanced my Photography SkillsI bought a DSLR camera in 2012 when my first daughter was born and was painfully intimidated by the lights, buttons, and switches.

F stop. Aperture. Shutter speed.

What?

Just keep it in the automatic setting, I thought. It’s so much easier that way. 

Sure, it was easy. But it often resulted in pictures that were blurry, yellow, or dark.

If I wanted good pictures on the blog, I would have to learn how to use the camera in manual. And, just like everything else, practice makes perfect. It took about two years, but now I only use it in manual. And check out this sweet shot I captured last year in Italy, which totally would have been ruined if I was shooting in automatic:

9 Ways Blogging Made me a Better Person - one was it honed in my photography. |The Champagne Supernova Blogging Opens Doors for Connections. I have so many “friends” in the blogosphere who, even though we’ve never met in the flesh, I feel like I know. I read their blogs routinely, celebrate their blogging victories, see pictures of their families, “like” and “comment” on their Instagram photos, and would definitely have a glass of vino with them if given the opportunity.

These bloggers have inspired me to do better and enabled me to have fresher ideas, take better pictures, grow my subscriber list, and jump start my SEO.

Dang for those pesky geographic limitations.

Blogging Makes me be a Better Listener. In the blogging community, it’s all about the conversation. There’s no right or wrong, just a gathering of opinions focused on seeing each other succeed. It’s no longer solely about what I think or what I’m doing, but it’s about reading what other people are doing and understanding whether it is or isn’t working for them.

Blogging Helps me Help Others. Putting my honest struggles and vulnerabilities onto the world wide web, where it will stay forever, has an impact in ways I never realized. Last year after I published a post about my awful experience with the baby blues, a stranger approached me at Home Depot, sobbing. She was four weeks postpartum and was struggling with depression, discovered my blog, and found comfort knowing she wasn’t alone.

Wow.

It felt so good to know I made her feel good without even trying, just by being honest.

What ways has your preferred creative outlet changed your life for the better? Let’s keep the conversation going.

If you’re thinking about following in my footsteps by starting a blog, this could motivate you to be on track with tasks at home and in the office as you’ll be uploading content daily for your readers.

Cheers!

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    58 Comments on 9 Ways Blogging Makes me a Better Person

    1. Anuradha Chawla
      December 27, 2016 at 7:09 am (3 years ago)

      Hello

      This is a wonderful article you’ve got here. Blogging is one thing that inspires me, and I can agree with all that you have said here.
      Thanks for sharing and do have an amazing day ahead.

      Reply
    2. Mimi Rose
      March 17, 2016 at 4:10 pm (3 years ago)

      Aw I love this post! I believe that blogging makes me a better person as well – it has definitely helped with my photography skills too, haha. Besides that though, as a travel blogger, I travel completely different than I ever used to before I had a blog. I truly want to understand places and get to know the locals more so now, so I can write up a genuine and thoughtful piece for my readers. Great post!

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 20, 2016 at 7:37 am (3 years ago)

        Thanks for your input, Mimi! I’ve been to the Atlas Heart many times and love your blog, gives me wanderlust!

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    3. Natassja
      March 17, 2016 at 11:27 am (3 years ago)

      I loved this post! I really identified with the seconds thoughts or anxieties you mention having as a new blogger. I often find myself second guessing what I post as a relatively new blogger. It’s encouraging to read about the experience of someone more experienced, and makes me feel motivated to keep working at finding my voice!

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 20, 2016 at 7:38 am (3 years ago)

        As, thanks for the feedback, Natassja. I’ve only been blogging for a little over a year, but finding your own voice and sticking to it is SO IMPORTANT. (And yes, it’s sometimes hard to have the courage to do it!) Cheers.

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    4. DaisyWillows
      March 17, 2016 at 5:04 am (3 years ago)

      Great advice. Especially the world won’t end if I don’t post today ..

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    5. Jennifer
      March 16, 2016 at 1:49 pm (3 years ago)

      I definitely needed this on the crazy day that I’m having today. THANK YOU!

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    6. Rosalyn O.
      March 16, 2016 at 10:21 am (3 years ago)

      This is so true! I like how I can meet new people and express myself in a creative way. Thanks for sharing this 🙂

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    7. Annie
      March 16, 2016 at 8:01 am (3 years ago)

      I love this! Sometimes I doubt myself and whether I should continue blogging, but then I remember all the was blogging fills my creative spirit, gives me something as a SAHM to think sbout, the friends I have made! Thanks for writing about this–glad to know I am not the only one who agonizes over publishing each post!

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    8. Chris Huston
      March 14, 2016 at 9:56 pm (3 years ago)

      I completely agree with your points! Blogging is not always easy and can definitely mess with your ego:) I love your honesty.

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:57 pm (3 years ago)

        Totally, Chris! Just gotta keep on keeping on (easier said than done!)

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    9. Clare Speer
      March 14, 2016 at 9:17 pm (3 years ago)

      I love these truths and thanks for sharing… I am thankful I am not alone… I am a pretty new blogger and when I get burnout or feel like no one is actually reading…. I realize that I am trying to encourage and help women…. and blogging helps me too – lots of personal and emotional growth while blogging! Thanks

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:52 pm (3 years ago)

        Totally agreed, Claire. And for what it’s worth, I read your blog and I lurve it. Cheers!

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    10. Starr
      March 14, 2016 at 9:06 pm (3 years ago)

      This is so encouraging to me! I had that same fear hitting publish in the beginning. It’s still there but receiving positive feedback has helped me press on. Thank you for this!

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:53 pm (3 years ago)

        Keep on keeping on, Starr! Cheers.

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    11. Stacy
      March 14, 2016 at 4:30 pm (3 years ago)

      What a great post! I am new to blogging and really hoping to gain some of these “side effects” of blogging, like growing a thicker skin and making connections with people. Thanks for sharing!

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:53 pm (3 years ago)

        Trust me, the thick skin part is a work in progress, but it will eventually come, and you’ll be thrilled about the freedom it provides. Cheers, Stacy! Can’t wait to check out your blog.

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    12. Aishwarya S
      March 14, 2016 at 1:14 pm (3 years ago)

      I hardly get any time to blog these days and so I really needed to read this. It’s an essential part of me and I need to prioritize it. Thanks for writing this! 🙂

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:54 pm (3 years ago)

        Thanks for stopping by, Aishwarya. Blogging is SO time consuming, as you said, but so worth it.

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    13. Katy
      March 14, 2016 at 1:01 pm (3 years ago)

      I can totally relate to developing a thick skin through blogging. Not only do you get nasty comments, but sometimes you get no comments, or a post that didn’t really resonate with readers. The biggest thing I’ve learned over the course of blogging is just to stick with it. It gets better over time and you’ll be glad that you stuck with it.

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:55 pm (3 years ago)

        Exactly, Katy! I’ve found that some posts are hits and some are misses, but they can’t all resonate with people the same way and that’s ok. You just gotta keep doing it for yourself. xoxo

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    14. Willow
      March 14, 2016 at 12:37 pm (3 years ago)

      I agree with all of these. I have learned so much from blogging, and have grown in so many ways that I cannot imagine a life without it!

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:55 pm (3 years ago)

        Thanks, Willow, and I love your blog, BTW!

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    15. kristen
      March 14, 2016 at 12:06 pm (3 years ago)

      I love these. They are so true. I’m learning that the world won’t fall apart with out a blog post from me, even though I feel like i might! And, the tough skin thing, yikes. I still call my best friend crying about it, just maybe not every time. I love your blog btw and look forward to any post from you! xx

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:56 pm (3 years ago)

        Aw, thanks Kristen, and the feeling is mutual. I was actually just thinking about how I was looking forward to your post tomorrow following the finale of The Bachelor! xo

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    16. Frugal Mom of 8
      March 10, 2016 at 12:26 pm (3 years ago)

      I love these especially the part about growing thick skin!

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    17. Danielle
      March 10, 2016 at 1:38 am (3 years ago)

      Love this post ! And I totally agree ☺️. It’s so fun to learn photography stuff , I always wanted to but before blogging never had a real reason to. It’s so creative and fun! I also agree with the thick skin part. Although I haven’t experienced things that hateful, I can’t believe someone said you were a bad mom. How sad. Well on the bright side , you are doing YOU and nobody should judge. Great blog!
      Danielle Greco | AccordingtoD.com

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:56 pm (3 years ago)

        Good luck with learning to use the camera, Danielle. Keep plugging along and you’ll get it- its crazy how much easier it gets!

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    18. Bev & Samantha from REinspired Decor
      March 9, 2016 at 11:44 pm (3 years ago)

      All good points! I laughed about learning to use the camera in manual mode because that’s definitely a shortcoming for me. Thankfully there’s two of us and where one is not so good at something, the other person is! Blogging is so much work (but totally worth it) for two of us so I definitely tip my hat to everyone who does this all on their own.

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:58 pm (3 years ago)

        Yes, that’s awesome you both have each other for support. Love your blog, BTW! So fun reading.

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    19. Paula Iniguez
      March 9, 2016 at 10:41 pm (3 years ago)

      Love this! You really do have to set your priorities or it will all just fall apart.

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    20. Jenny
      March 9, 2016 at 10:03 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes to all of these! I really enjoy reading along on your blog 🙂

      xoxo, Jenny

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 14, 2016 at 9:58 pm (3 years ago)

        Jenny- you are THE BOMB. Made my night. Thanks, and right back atcha.

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    21. Rachel
      March 9, 2016 at 9:56 pm (3 years ago)

      All wonderful things! I’ve learned most of these from blogging too. It’s amazing how much it affects other areas of your life!

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    22. Chrisy @ Homemade Hooplah
      March 9, 2016 at 9:05 pm (3 years ago)

      Totally relating to all of this 🙂 Blogging as really pulled me out of my shell – it’s amazing how much you can grow just by cultivating a site!

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    23. Dia @ All The Things I Do
      March 9, 2016 at 9:03 pm (3 years ago)

      Wonderful post! I am hoping that blogging will make me a better at photography soon, I bought a new camera in November and have barely used it. Major shame on me. When I started I had the bright idea to publish daily… yeah I was just putting crap out there now looking back. I am trying to slowly go back and make updates to a lot of those filler pieces. Totally sharing this.

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    24. Angie
      March 9, 2016 at 8:19 pm (3 years ago)

      These are fantastic reasons, and good for you shaking it off and not caring! Though I’m sorry to hear people have been so awful to you.

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    25. KimiWho.com
      March 9, 2016 at 8:08 pm (3 years ago)

      I feel like blogging has opened up a lot of doors for me – connections with other people, opportunities I wouldn’t have otherwise had, not to mention those awesome freebies of course! When I think about blogging and how it’s helped me find myself, it makes me realize that I was meant to do it all along.

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    26. Morgan @ Lilies + Lambs
      March 9, 2016 at 8:07 pm (3 years ago)

      Love this post, Jennifer! I can relate to all of these, particularly with respect to accountability. I started to blog regularly after my little one was born- doing so gave me motivation to get out of my spit up stained clothes, brush my hair, and go on adventures that I could share with my readers and followers. So glad I did! xx

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    27. Corina Ramos
      March 9, 2016 at 7:11 pm (3 years ago)

      Great post Jennifer! I agree with all of these…Blogging has taught me how to become a better writer and I’ve met some great people too.

      Thanks for sharing!

      Cori

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    28. Mistle
      March 9, 2016 at 5:35 pm (3 years ago)

      I could not agree with you more on all of these! Being a blogger is hard work. Making mistakes will happen because hey we aren’t perfect. I love the community that comes with blogging. I have meet some amazing bloggers (in person and virtually). I would not trade this experience for anything.

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    29. Ashley
      March 9, 2016 at 4:16 pm (3 years ago)

      This post is so true. Especially the one about keeping me accountable. Sometimes I put things on my blog or social media just so I have motivation to get it done 🙂

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    30. Sara Glomski
      March 9, 2016 at 3:55 pm (3 years ago)

      I can definitely tell these posts take a while to write the way you want, add photos, and publish. I enjoy them! And I really would like to use my camera in manual as well 🙂

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    31. Kelly
      March 9, 2016 at 3:38 pm (3 years ago)

      Great post! Blogging is such an awesome creative outlet and I totally agree with all of these!

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    32. Brittany
      March 9, 2016 at 2:17 pm (3 years ago)

      I love this! I just started out with my blog, and I definitely have been feeling narcissistic. I’ve been afraid and I am hoping to find my “voice.” I’m sorry you’ve had some trolls. I’d wear my pajamas to school all the time if I could. Wouldn’t everyone? I think it’s impressive how you’ve been able to become self-aware enough to create this post!

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    33. Lexi
      March 9, 2016 at 1:29 pm (3 years ago)

      All of these are so true! I don’t think people understand what all goes on when they hear that I blog.

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    34. lauren
      March 9, 2016 at 1:18 pm (3 years ago)

      YES! I agree with all of these things! Blogging has opened my eyes to so many wonderful things and different people.. I love it!

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    35. Kelly
      March 9, 2016 at 11:28 am (3 years ago)

      Great post! Great insight and totally in-tune with how I’ve felt starting my blogging journey!

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    36. Sarah Eliza @ devastateboredom
      March 9, 2016 at 11:14 am (3 years ago)

      These are all so true! Connection and thick skin are two I DEFINITELY value about blogging.

      Also…. there’s a typo in the paragraph about the typo… “agonize” instead of “antagonize”… smack me if you were being funny by putting a typo there on purpose, but I figured I’d want to know if it were me… and if it is meant to be funny, then I caught the joke!! haha! ;P

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      • jenniferdaku
        March 9, 2016 at 12:27 pm (3 years ago)

        I just died out laughing. DIED OUT LAUGHING. It wasn’t on purpose, genuine typo. Proof God has a sense of humor. I fixed it now. Maybe you need to be my official proofreader. Thanks Sarah Eliza!!!!

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    37. Betsy
      March 9, 2016 at 11:01 am (3 years ago)

      Those are all really good points. I had never thought about how I’ve changed/improved with regards to some of those. I know I’ve really tried to up my photography game since starting to blog!

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    38. Cara
      March 9, 2016 at 10:19 am (3 years ago)

      Love this post! I don’t think most people realize how demanding blogging really is on top of all of the other demands we all have in our day to day lives, but the fact of the matter is being part of the blogging community is great because it really does teach you so many important lessons about life and yourself. I like that my blog is my little creative corner where I can be me and if people don’t like that, that’s okay, but at least I’m being real and authentic. Great post!

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    39. Reginia Cordell
      March 9, 2016 at 10:07 am (3 years ago)

      I’ve honed the things that I actually care about in the blogasphere. I used to spend too much time doing things that didn’t help grow my blog or spark creativity, so I’ve let those go. I’ve become a better photography and spend more time on blogs that I actually like.

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    40. Crystal
      March 9, 2016 at 10:05 am (3 years ago)

      I think blogging makes me a worse real-life person. I can get inside my head and start thinking about blogging instead of being present with the people around me. My photography skills still suck. I blame the camera. LOL I read a post that used the same literary reference about the same topic and there was that moment I was sure she stole it and maybe she did, but if so, I’m flattered. I befriended her by pointing it out to her in a ‘we are kindred spirits’ kind of way. Now I am hoping she will read my post, if she didn’t steal it of course!

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    41. Ali A
      March 9, 2016 at 9:51 am (3 years ago)

      I agree with ALL of this. Having and maintaining a blog can be WORK — a lot more than people expect — but the benefits and perks outweigh all of that. I feel like it keeps my brain sharp, creativity flowing, keeps me motivated and just inspires me to constantly do and get better. A lot of the pressure is self-inflicted, as you know, but sometimes a little pressure is a good thing. So glad we became blog buds this year! xo

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    42. Lee Anne
      March 9, 2016 at 9:47 am (3 years ago)

      I love this post and agree with all of these! Blogging is so much more than it seems on the surface 🙂
      xo
      Lee Anne

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