Getting Older: Nine Best Things


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I turned 34 this week.

It’s seemingly a baby for those in their forties and fifties. Considering celebrating my thirtieth birthday seems like yesterday, I wonder where the time went.

I remember turning 18 like it was yesterday. One of my girlfriends came to my house in the middle of the night, decorated my car with silly string, toilet paper, and fun birthday-themed “flair.”

18 was a milestone because it meant I no longer needed a fake ID to go to shady local clubs and dance the night away to TLC, 98 Degrees, and Ginuwine.

Turning 21 also seemed pretty recent. My college friends and I went to dinner at a super fancy and exclusive restaurant, Chili’s, before hitting the town and celebrating at various Gainesville landmarks.

I get it.

Not everyone wants to get older. We have to pay taxes, shop around for deals on health insurance, and stock up on creams and serums to keep us looking young forever.

It can really stink. In fact, I wrote a post about it here.

That said, there are some luxuries of getting older that I didn’t have in my youth.

Here are 9 of them.

 

Major Life Decisions: The Pressure is Off. Decide what do I want to be when I grow up. Check.

Finish school. Check.

Pass the bar exam. Check.

Get married. Check.

Pop out a couple kids. Check.

The older you get, the less important life decisions there are to make, because you’ve already checked a lot off your list. Now you can move onto unimportant decisions that don’t require as much brain power.

Like where you are going to hide the chocolate candy in the kitchen so your spouse won’t find it.

Fierce Friendships. When you’re young, unemployed, single, and childless (hello: college days!), it’s easy to have a million friends because having a million friends is convenient.

You have tons of friends in the dorms because you live in the dorms and see those people ten times a day.

It’s convenient.

You have friends in class who you study with three times a week.

It’s convenient.

Sorority sisters who you routinely see while dining at the house and at fraternity grab-a-dates.

It’s convenient.

However, when you’re older, your friendships strengthen because you only have a weelittlebit of time to devote to certain number of people because you’re also juggling your family and cultivating your personal passions. You maintain friends that are deeply valuable because you don’t have time for the crappers. You are dang picky about how you spend your precious time.

And, in turn, those are some of the deepest lifelong friendships you’ll ever know.

You Own the 9:00 p.m. Bedtime. When I was younger, New Year’s Eve was planned a month in advance. The event had to contain three things: friends, champagne, and a sequined getup.

Now, I want to spend New Years’ Eve on the couch, in my pajamas, and I’m the fuddy-duddy who gets miffed when the neighbors set off fireworks, because they spook my dog,  Goshdarnit.

I don’t care about Times Square, watching a glittery ball drop, or having a perfect kiss at midnight.

On an average evening when I was young, I was still blowdrying my hair, applying makeup, or “pre-gaming” at 9:00 p.m. Now, I am washing my face, brushing my teeth, popping in my retainer, and getting ready to hit the sack.

It’s glorious.

Comfort over Fashion. Getting older’s given me a reason to cash in my stilettos for flats.

Who am I kidding? I never wore stilettos.

But if I did…

Yeah, looking nice is nice. But I’m not going to get dolled up just to go to the grocery store when I only need to pick up one item.

Staying seated at Sporting Events and Concerts. And honoring my obnoxiousness when I ask the person in front of me to sit down because (s)he is blocking my view.

Having Your Own Money. There’s something incredibly freeing about buying something with your own money that you earned through your own education and your own hard work.

There’s also something incredibly freeing about wisely choosing not to buy something you would otherwise like to have, but you know it’s a stupid way to spend your own money that you earned through your own education and your own hard work.

A wise woman once said: “The shoes on my feet, I’ve bought it, The clothes I’m wearing, I’ve bought it, The rock I’m rocking’, ‘Cause I depend on me…”

Word.

Getting Taken More Seriously. For the most part.

Procreating. While parenting has its challenges, I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Having your kids tell you they love you beats the cashier at the DMV handing over the plastic driver’s license to your 16 year-old self.

Watching your kids love and protect each other beats playing flip cup at football tailgate parties of your youth.

Watching your kids do the right thing in a difficult situation beats college spring break in the Bahamas with twenty of your close friends.

Kids beat everything.

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Putting Life Lessons into Action. It took me nearly thirty years to learn to keep my (big) mouth closed in certain situations, but at least I learned it.

It took me longer than thirty years to not let fear of other people’s (meaningless) opinions prevent me from putting myself “out there” and do what I truly want to do, but at least I learned it.

It took me nearly thirty years to make a concerted effort to focus on the big picture instead of the minutiae, but at least I learned it and have a chance to work on it.

Being young, immature, and inexperienced gives people a license to goof up and make mistakes. Being an adult provides the opportunity to recognize the mistakes and hopefully grow from them.

Here’s to turning 34. Here’s to major life decisions, fierce friendships, choosing comfort over fashion, staying seated at events, having your own money, getting taken more seriously, procreating, putting life decisions into action, and the marvelous 9 p.m. bedtime.

Cheers!

 

    35 Comments on Getting Older: Nine Best Things

    1. Hosting
      November 29, 2016 at 12:54 pm (9 months ago)

      One of the best parts of retirement is spending more time with family, friends and other loved ones.

      Reply
      • jenniferdaku
        November 29, 2016 at 8:22 pm (9 months ago)

        Fair point! I hope you’re enjoying your retirement! xo

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    2. agnes
      June 5, 2016 at 8:03 am (1 year ago)

      im turning 34 this year and am a lawyer in sydney contemplating my 2nd child. this is all so true and gave me perspective i needed when i was feeling shit about not being able to party on holidays with a 16 month old. i love your blog and glad i found it. xxxx

      Reply
    3. Kristin
      January 25, 2016 at 1:20 pm (2 years ago)

      Love this. Especially the part about kids. Except, I’d really kill to be in the Bahamas right now with my friends. 😉 But, they’re worth it!

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    4. Kristine
      January 25, 2016 at 11:47 am (2 years ago)

      Happy Belated Birthday!

      Such a great post – I don’t have kids (yet) but all of the other reasons ring true! Especially the 9pm bedtime!

      I hope you had a fantastic birthday!

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    5. Cara
      January 22, 2016 at 3:21 pm (2 years ago)

      I love this post! I only recently turned 26 but I definitely already relate to the NYE thing-haha I literally have no desire to stay up to watch the ball drop, and I’m usually always in bed by 9:30 at the latest. Such a cute post!

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    6. Aarika
      January 15, 2016 at 4:15 pm (2 years ago)

      I love this post! I have never been fearful of getting older, but instead, I embrace every year and decade as a new era; however, reading your post helped me truly appreciate the best things of getting older and fierce friendships are one of my favorites! Thanks for the beautiful and funny post to make me smile. Cheers!

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    7. melody pittman
      January 15, 2016 at 2:04 pm (2 years ago)

      I had to laugh while reading this post because so many of these things hit home. My favorite and one I really look forward to is the ‘seated at music concerts and events”. lololol It makes all the difference in the world! I am turning 47 soon and feel better than ever in my whole life. Children are on their own and now it is just time for me (and me and hubby) to do all the things we always wanted to and shoot for the moon! We are having a ball! I haven’t hit the early bedtime stage yet (I am a 1 or2 o’clocker) but other than that, everything about being old is pretty awesome!

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    8. Vicky @ Avocado Pesto
      January 15, 2016 at 1:15 pm (2 years ago)

      Great list! You def put a positive spin on the whole getting older bit! I’m only 27 so looks like I’ve still got a lot to get ot — no kids yet !

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    9. Dee Dee (My Midlife Kitchen)
      January 15, 2016 at 12:11 pm (2 years ago)

      Yup, been there, done that, got the t-shirt. LOL And I’m (approximately?) a decade ahead of you, and I can tell you that the comfort of just being “you” continues to strengthen. Happy birthday!

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    10. Coralie
      January 15, 2016 at 10:11 am (2 years ago)

      Hey, I have come to know that I get better with age. Those lessons in growing up are tough but once you check them off your list, life gets so much easier. Happy Birthday!

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    11. KatyRose
      January 15, 2016 at 9:56 am (2 years ago)

      LOL Great list of things. I have to say some of those things I balk at and don’t want to give up. At 32 I’m not ready to trade in the heels and I still love being crazy at concerts and sporting events. But I do own and love the early bedtime, and being taken more seriously. – Katy

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    12. Clare Speer
      January 15, 2016 at 6:43 am (2 years ago)

      So cute – love it! Well…. I am well into my 50’s and I more than OWN the 9:00 p.m. bedtime – sometimes I don’t even make it until 9:00…. and this time of year I am in my jammies at 6:30 p.m.! 🙂 🙂 Cute post …. and lots of truth – seems like every decade brings about new change… and growth!

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    13. Jen
      January 15, 2016 at 12:06 am (2 years ago)

      I turn 34 this summer and I definitely agree with a lot of these. I think even if we don’t have all of these down though, we are still doing great. Happy birthday!

      Reply
    14. katie
      January 14, 2016 at 9:40 pm (2 years ago)

      Happy Birthday! This is a great post + such great advice.

      ​xx katie // a touch of teal

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    15. Roxy
      January 14, 2016 at 8:19 pm (2 years ago)

      Happy Birthday! I am 26 and feel like I’m at such an awkward place. I want to live it up and binge drink, but I literally can’t stay awake and the thought of a hang over makes me cringe. I have yet to get married and don’t have kids so I feel like I should still be partying it up, but honestly prefer quiet nights in over the club.

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    16. Rhi
      January 14, 2016 at 5:08 pm (2 years ago)

      I’m 33, I love it. Most of my twenties was awful. My sister turned 30 last year and she’s well into the whole oh god doom I’m 30 malarky. Very boring.
      I can eat jelly for breakfast. Who wants to be a kid again??

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    17. Jamie S.
      January 14, 2016 at 5:01 pm (2 years ago)

      Ah, Flip Cup. I had totally forgotten about that. So glad to have a different meaning for life these days. Happy Birthday!

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    18. Rachel O.
      January 14, 2016 at 4:04 pm (2 years ago)

      Haha! I love your approach to getting older…checked so many things off your list already so now just worrying about where to hide the chocolate? So funny! Not sure I quite agree about friendships…are they deeper because your time is more precious, or because you’ve matured? Idk, just a thought. 🙂 Great post!

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    19. Christine
      January 14, 2016 at 2:31 pm (2 years ago)

      This is a great post and so easy to relate to. As I was reading it I kept shaking my head yes, yes lol. This mom is definitely in bed by 9am and love my little one so much even when he is a challenge. The girlfriend time too is so true. I try to squeeze in time with one or two when I can.

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    20. sara
      January 14, 2016 at 2:28 pm (2 years ago)

      Fierce friendships and putting life lessons in to action! Love those. I turned 36 over the summer and although I wouldn’t be mad if these crow’s feet were less prevalent…I’m more happy and confident then I’ve ever been.

      Reply
    21. Kaileigh
      January 14, 2016 at 1:29 pm (2 years ago)

      Happy birthday! What a great post – there are some things that are just so much better when you’re older.

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    22. Anna Prokofieva
      January 14, 2016 at 12:58 pm (2 years ago)

      OMG I can’t stop laughing. It’s so so so true!!! Especially about bed time.
      Amazing post, creates a great mood on a cold winter day.

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    23. Nicole
      January 14, 2016 at 12:47 pm (2 years ago)

      What a wonderful list! I’m almost 29 and each year I appreciate the stability in my life more and more. I still have a few major milestones ahead, but I’m excited for them.

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    24. Stephania Weisz
      January 14, 2016 at 11:13 am (2 years ago)

      I love all of these! Especially the 9pm bedtime. I feel like a rockstar if I make it to 10 😉

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    25. lauren
      January 14, 2016 at 10:58 am (2 years ago)

      Love all of this! Very true..

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    26. Joanna
      January 14, 2016 at 10:52 am (2 years ago)

      Happy birthday! You are looking stunning at 34:) at 26, with four little ones, I totally get the need for fierce friendships!

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    27. Kyla
      January 14, 2016 at 10:49 am (2 years ago)

      “You own the 9:00pm bedtime” – too great 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

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    28. kristen
      January 14, 2016 at 10:44 am (2 years ago)

      Happy Birthday! this was such a great post!

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    29. Biana @ Blovedboston
      January 14, 2016 at 7:01 am (2 years ago)

      Happy happy birthday girl! Yes to all of these and just knowing who you are!! The best gift! xo, Biana –BlovedBoston

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    30. Aja
      January 14, 2016 at 6:26 am (2 years ago)

      Happy birthday! Totally agree with all your points, and it’s amazing I’ve achieved all that by the ripe age of 28. Which I’ll continue to turn for the next 10 years. Seriously though, I see my kids’ teachers and think “they’re so old and adult” and then they’re like “I graduated high school in 2004” and I’m all 😳😩😁

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    31. Kelly
      January 14, 2016 at 6:01 am (2 years ago)

      Gotta love that 9 p.m. bedtime! It’s true that all major life decisions are pretty much checked off and you can worry about the less important decisions. I never looked at it that way, but it’s so refreshing!

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    32. Sara Glomski
      January 13, 2016 at 10:35 pm (2 years ago)

      So true! Happy birthday! Btw I’m sitting here and saw that it’s 10:34 then thought, WHY am I still awake?

      Reply
    33. Sarah Morgan Thompson
      January 13, 2016 at 10:28 pm (2 years ago)

      This is perfection, couldn’t agree more! Happy Birthday!

      Reply

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