Stop Prefacing your Statements and Start Owning Them


I cringe when I see it on my social media newsfeed. Awesome, educated, intelligent people who feel the need to preface their status updates about a controversial or potentially unpopular subject with “I don’t usually post about <religion/ politics/ race relations/ gender equality/ my expensive new car/ superstitious chain mail> but…” This little phrase appears most frequently during election seasons, but I’ve seen it in a variety of other situations.

I think people use this preface for different reasons. It’s because they think it serves as an advance apology for writing something that others might find offensive. It’s because they think their readers will give more credence to their opinion about the subject because of their usual silence. It’s because they want to lighten the blow of the statements that follow. Or, it’s because they’re unnecessarily verbose.

Stop it already. Just stop.

If you want to make a statement about something (without being plain unkind), then own that statement! You are entitled to present your complete opinions without an advance caveat. Without the preface. There is nothing more powerful than hearing (or reading) someone speak from the heart.


    2 Comments on Stop Prefacing your Statements and Start Owning Them

    1. Kimmie
      January 7, 2015 at 11:01 am (7 years ago)

      I don’t ever comment on blog posts but…I kid, I kid. I’m loving the blog and look forward to reading more from you! Happy 2015! xxoo

      • jenniferdaku
        January 7, 2015 at 11:49 am (7 years ago)

        Thank you Kimmie! I appreciate your feedback and hope you and the rest of the sweet Armistead clan are off to a Happy New Year. Let me know which blogs you follow because I’m always looking for good ones.