My Theme for 2015: Just Say No!


Happy 2015 everybody! I hope everyone is having a nice start to the new year and had a good time ringing it in last night.

A new year always triggers a need for me to reflect on what worked in my life and what didn’t in the last year, including what I want to change and what should stay the same. This can be tough because it forces me take a long, honest look at my weaknesses, which is never fun. I’ve taken a personal vow to remain completely authentic 100% of the time with total disregard about what other people think (my first step: putting myself out there on the internet). I’ve come to realize, in this journey to authenticity, that many of my actions were performed out of fear, obligation, or guilt, rather than a sincere desire to do them. I was taking on too many commitments and it was straining my career, marriage, and friendships. For instance, I was so stressed about accepting five consecutive after-work dinner invitations in one week that I wasn’t enjoying the brief time I had at home with my family after work- all I could focus on was getting myself dressed and out the door on time for whatever obligation I shouldn’t have accepted in the first place. I was constantly saying “yes” when I really wanted to say “no,” but feared that the “no” would let other people down or would cause the invitations to stop coming. I can’t let myself be guided by fear.

My theme for 2015 is “just say no!” I will just say no to committing myself to doing things I don’t truly want to do.  I will just say no to spending time with people who I don’t genuinely want to spend time with. I will just say no to allowing myself to be distracted by technology during what should be “quality time” with my daughters. I will just say no to overextending myself through membership in organizations that no longer suit my interests or further my goals.  I will just say no to allowing myself to feel guilty for declining invitations to dinners, weddings, showers, or birthday parties unless these events are things I completely want to attend.

What are your goals for 2015?


    26 Comments on My Theme for 2015: Just Say No!

    1. J @ A Hot Southern Mess
      March 23, 2015 at 5:15 pm (7 years ago)

      That was part of my New Years Resolution to be more INTENTIONAL. Intentional with my words included! I was such a “yes” girl and I am working on being a “no” girl when I want to be. Thanks for sharing!

      • jenniferdaku
        March 24, 2015 at 12:13 pm (7 years ago)

        OHHHH I love this “intentional” theme… I’m going to try that. How has it worked out so far?

    2. free music downloads
      February 26, 2015 at 1:55 pm (7 years ago)

      Hmm is anyone else encountering problems with the images on this blog loading?
      I’m trying to find out if its a problem on my end
      or if it’s the blog. Any feed-back would be greatly appreciated.

      • jenniferdaku
        February 26, 2015 at 8:45 pm (7 years ago)

        Hmmm… nobody else has told me there’s been issues! Hopefully it will get resolved quickly and thanks for stopping by!

    3. Jessica
      January 3, 2015 at 9:18 am (8 years ago)

      You did it!!! I’m so inspired by you Jen and love the “Just Say No” post. We could all live up to that a little better. Happy New Year & congrats!!!

      • jenniferdaku
        January 3, 2015 at 12:34 pm (8 years ago)

        Thanks, Jessica! You have a BIG year coming up! We are excited for you and Jack.

    4. Melissa
      January 3, 2015 at 2:49 am (8 years ago)

      To be present and appreciate every day for the lessons it provides. To live in the moment and be content with what I have.

      Proud if you Daku– keep the posts coming.

      • jenniferdaku
        January 3, 2015 at 12:33 pm (8 years ago)

        Thanks Melissa! You are all really good at those things. You’re the best. Keep your eye out for Monday’s post- you’re in it!

    5. Caitlin
      January 2, 2015 at 11:16 am (8 years ago)

      Congratulations! Love this post and your blog design, great job! Saying no is one of our goals this year too 🙂 Happy New Year!!

      • jenniferdaku
        January 2, 2015 at 12:33 pm (8 years ago)

        Thanks Caitlin! Hope the Ralphs are off to the start of a great 2015.

    6. Danielle
      January 2, 2015 at 8:09 am (8 years ago)

      I could not say it better myself . It is hard to just say “no”
      We want to please everyone but there comes a time when you realize you need to please yourself. It is ok to focus on what makes you happy and that is something I am trying to do for 2015.
      Thank you Jen….keep your blogs coming!

      • jenniferdaku
        January 2, 2015 at 8:58 am (8 years ago)

        I love this, Danielle. Hope you’re feeling good- you’re in the final stretch.

    7. Emily
      January 1, 2015 at 9:38 pm (8 years ago)

      Just remember what Dorothy said: “There is no place like home!”

      • jenniferdaku
        January 2, 2015 at 8:57 am (8 years ago)

        Love it!

    8. Ellie
      January 1, 2015 at 9:20 pm (8 years ago)

      I love everything about this!!!

    9. Nicole Garcia
      January 1, 2015 at 8:46 pm (8 years ago)

      My goal is to be “present” and not constantly think about the next thing on my to-do list. Also, I would like to limit the time I spend on social media, it can be such a time-suck for me.

      Excited for this blog!


    10. Sarah Walters
      January 1, 2015 at 8:24 pm (8 years ago)

      Love your goal…I’m totally stealing it! #justsayno2015

      • jenniferdaku
        January 2, 2015 at 8:58 am (8 years ago)


    11. Amanda
      January 1, 2015 at 6:58 pm (8 years ago)

      Very proud of you for starting your blog, which you talked about for awhile! Keep the posts coming! Love you!

      Ps- you better not say “no” to our wedding 😉

      • jenniferdaku
        January 2, 2015 at 8:58 am (8 years ago)

        I’ll only say “no” if I’m referred to as the MATRON of honor.

    12. Christina
      January 1, 2015 at 6:57 pm (8 years ago)

      Jen- I love this and have tried so hard to so the same!! 2015 for me is about bring present, focused on faith and family and taking care of myself!! Love this and your ability to be vulnerable!! You rock my sweet friend!

      • jenniferdaku
        January 1, 2015 at 8:39 pm (8 years ago)

        All great goals- I could use more of “being present” in my own life. GREAT ONE.

    13. Sarah Morgan Thompson
      January 1, 2015 at 4:51 pm (8 years ago)

      I love that! I’ve gotten much better at saying no, still not as good as I should be…yet. My goal for 2015 is to smile!

      • jenniferdaku
        January 1, 2015 at 6:13 pm (8 years ago)

        That’s a great goal, and you have one of the most beautiful smiles around. Happy 2015 Sarah.

    14. Jana
      January 1, 2015 at 4:36 pm (8 years ago)

      Jen, I admire your authenticity and it’s what I like so much about you! You are an inspiration to me to be more authentic in my own life. What a great read to start 2015! Xo

      • jenniferdaku
        January 1, 2015 at 6:13 pm (8 years ago)

        Aw, thanks Jana! Right back atcha.